An analogy would always make things clearer. It shows the rationality, the logic values and of course, it gives the mind to think broader and wider.
Here ladies and gentleman, I would life to make an analogy of A Couple and Dr Love.
An analogy of why couples should not seek others help and opinion in solving problems; instead couples should confide in each other about their problems.
Dr Love can be a boy or a girl , depends on your gender *wink*
Dr Love is a boy if you are a girl and vice versa.
Bunga would be the girl, and Bee would be the boy. Here, Ulat is Dr Love is a boy.
Bunga and Bee are a couple. They’re happy, content and love each other very, very, very much. However, Bunga has a guy friend, Ulat whom she always contact every now and then. Bunga has Bee and Ulat – 2 important people in her life. Bunga believes that Ulat is as important is Bee. When the sun shines, Bunga will be in LaLaLand with Bee. However, as the rain pours madly like there’s no tomorrow, Bunga too pours silently to Ulat about her thunderstorm issues with Bee.
My analogy here is, WHY DR LOVE IS NOT THE BEST SOLUTION IN FIXING YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
Bunga is the cut. Bee is the medication. Ulat is the Dr.
Now there’s a cut on your skin. Hei if you have the medication at home, use it. Don’t wait till the very last minute or death consumes you. The medication is there to treat you, to ensure you are healthy and well, to heal you as so you can proceed with life. You know that “okay. this capsules would control my sugar level intake”. Take it. Eat it. That is the use of the medication.
The Dr of course helps. Think. Why the rush to the Dr when the treatment is at home? Why? Take home the medication and not using it to the maximum? Ho Ho Ho. What’s the use of having those then? To beautify the household?
Blur?
If Bunga is hurt by Bee, Bunga should tell Bee. Pour eveything to Bee as so he understands why Bunga is upset. Why the madness of seeking Ulat’s help? Bunga tells Ulat about Bunga’s problem. I don’t see the importance in doing so. Bunga is the one having a relationship with Bee. Not Bunga and Ulat.
Think.
Bunga pours to Ulat. Ulat is the one who knows the depth of cut Bunga has. Thus, Ulat knows how to console Bunga. Durh. Ulat would definitely console Bunga. Agreed? Then pity Bee is left alone not knowing why Bunga is upset. Bee would be in questions and denial. Bee would had never known the root of the problem and how to solve it. YET Bunga is expecting Bee to console her? Ho Ho Ho. Why make things complicated?
Whatever occurs between Bunga and Bee, it’s theirs. They are to solve it. As Bee knows Bunga’s problem, Bee would solve it or stop doing whatever Bunga dislikes. Hei, communication is important. To your partner and not to your closest opposite gender bestfriend when it comes to your relationship.
Ulat might wins Bunga heart if this continues. You know, the usual talk-to-me-I-understand-you-more-than-your-boyfie-deep-shit kind of stuff. Bee then is left terkapai-kapai.
Oh yes. It is hard to tell the truth and it is also hard to accept the one you love critisize you. Hei. If it is hard, why be together in the first place?
Don’t learnt the hard way. Ahah.
Toodles.